Sexual confidence is an important part of any healthy relationship, and it's especially important for women to feel confident in their sexuality. Your role isn't just to please your partner - your intimate experiences should be equally satisfying. Along with that comes confidence in yourself, knowing that your body is meant to be savored, and understanding how to bring more heat to the bedroom. We've come up with some helpful tips to get you there.
How to be a sexually confident woman:
1. Understand Your Body
The first step to sexual confidence is to understand your body. Spend time exploring yourself, learning what you like and what feels good. Understanding your own body will give you the confidence to communicate your needs and desires to your partner. Try something from our self-care collection, and spend quality time alone.
2. Communicate with Your Partner
Effective communication is key to a healthy sexual relationship. Talk to your partner about your desires, fantasies, and boundaries. Be honest and open with your partner about what you enjoy and what you don't. When both partners are open and honest, it can lead to a more fulfilling sexual experience for both. If you're in a new relationship, it can be intimidating to share your desires. Similarly, if you've been in a relationship for years, you might be afraid to share new desires with your partner. But trust us - your partner wants to know exactly how to please you. Communicating with him or her illustrates that you know what you want and you're not afraid to ask for it, which is exactly what a sexually confident woman would do.
3. Don't Be Afraid to Take the Lead
Sometimes taking the lead in the bedroom can be a big turn on for both you and your partner. Don't be afraid to initiate sex or try new things. By taking the lead, you can explore your own desires and take control of your sexual experience. To gain the courage to do this, we recommend starting small. Say things like, "I want to try __________ tonight," and see where the night takes you.
4. Embrace Your Confidence Outside of the Bedroom
Feeling confident in different areas of life helps us build sexual confidence. Think about your accomplishments, areas that you excel in, how incredible you are in the roles you play outside of the bedroom. Talk to yourself in the mirror or write in your journal to boast about yourself.
5. Focus on Pleasure
Rather than focusing on performance, focus on pleasure. The goal of sex should be to feel good and connect with your partner, not to perform. By focusing on pleasure, you can fully enjoy the experience and avoid those "Am I good enough?" thoughts.
6. Experiment with Lingerie
Try this in two ways: (1) wear lingerie in the bedroom that makes you feel ultra sexy. Do not go with safe options - try a style that complements your favorite features, and really own it. (2) Wear lingerie outside of the bedroom in a flirtatious way - a little bit of lace from your bra peeking out from your blouse, styling a longline bra as a top under your blazer, wearing stockings with backseams that make you feel irresistible. And be prepared to turn heads.
7. Practice Self-Care
The foundation of sexual confidence ultimately lies in how you feel about yourself overall. Practice self-care by regularly taking care of your physical, mental, and emotional health. Make time for yourself, do things you enjoy, and care for your body. When you feel good about yourself, it will show in your sexual confidence.
To sum it up, sexual confidence is an important part of your relationship. By understanding your body, communicating with your partner, occasionally taking the lead, embracing your confidence, focusing on pleasure, trying new lingerie, and practicing self-care, you can become a sexually confident woman and have a more fulfilling sexual relationship with your partner. Remember, sexual confidence comes from within, so take the time to explore and understand yourself, and the confidence will follow.